Do you find that after using sex toys, you suddenly notice: "My body doesn't seem as sensitive as before. Every time I use a toy to stimulate it, I need a higher intensity than the last time to feel good." Or you might worry: "The toy is so powerful. What if my boyfriend can't satisfy me?" You're not alone. Many women feel that their bodies become "numb" after using toys frequently. Why is that?
Why Does the Private Area Feel "Numb"?
First, you need to determine what kind of "numbness" you're experiencing.
One type is a lack of sensitivity in the private area, making it hard to feel pleasure during sex.
This is mainly related to hormonal changes.Female hormones are at a high level around ovulation, that is, before and after menstruation, which is a normal physiological fluctuation. During this time, you may find it easier to feel "turned on" when using toys or receiving sexual stimulation.
However, if you notice that you've been in a low-sensitivity state for a continuous month, you should consider whether stress, emotions, or other factors have caused hormonal imbalances.
Another type of "numbness" is caused by stimulating the penile nerves.
This kind of numbness is completely different from the first one. It means you've already been satisfied, so naturally, you need a higher level of stimulation to feel good again. This is a perfectly normal neural response.
So, in this case, will your private area be "ruined"? This is a common concern among women.
Indeed, using sex toys too frequently can lead to temporary numbness in the private area after orgasm, and even lower body aches. But this numbness is only temporary. It's just your body's way of saying, "I've had enough for now." It won't cause irreversible damage to your body.
This "numbness" simply means that your threshold for this type of stimulation has increased, making it harder for you to feel pleasure.
Let me give you two simple examples:
On Valentine's Day, your boyfriend gives you a big bouquet of roses. When you first smell them, the fragrance is delightful. But after a few seconds, does it seem as amazing? Yet, when you smell coffee beans, they still have a distinct aroma.
Another example: You love eating sweet oranges. But if you eat a bowl of honeydew melon first and then try a sweet orange, does it seem less appealing? However, this doesn't mean you can't enjoy something salty. In fact, eating something salty can help relieve that sweetness.
The same goes for using toys. The change in threshold is only temporary. Just switch things up, and your sensitivity will return more easily than you think. So, don't worry.
But despite this, sex toys often bear undue pressure:
"Will stimulating the clitoris for too long make it less sensitive?"
"Will using a vibrator too much stretch and loosen the vagina?"
"Using toys feels so good, but am I still a good girl? Will he think I'm too promiscuous?"
Some girls give up on trying sex toys because their boyfriends don't like them, even though they really want to.
Others who are new to sex toys stop using them after experiencing "numbness." But there's no need for that. Research shows that the orgasm rate for women during self-pleasure exceeds 85%, while it's less than 30% during intercourse.
This means that if you want to experience orgasms more often, you should learn to please yourself.
Almost every man's first sexual experience happens during adolescence, often with their own hand. So, during sex, they already know how to make themselves feel good and how to please you.
But some girls, on their first sexual encounter, may not even know where their sensitive spots are or even confuse the vaginal opening with the urethral opening. If you lack the confidence to control your orgasms, your charm in bed will naturally diminish.
And toys are excellent tools for exploring your own sensitive spots.
What Should You Pay Attention to When Using Toys for Self-Pleasure?
Choose the Right Toy for You
Often, we rely on recommendations from others when choosing toys. But what works for someone else may not be suitable for you. Especially if your private area is sensitive and the toy's intensity is too high, it may cause temporary numbness and ruin your overall experience. So, always choose a toy that suits you.
Create an Atmosphere
Even when you're pleasing yourself, treat yourself with love. When you're alone with your toy and no one is disturbing you, you can put more effort into creating an atmosphere and engaging in foreplay.
Choose a soothing, sultry-sounding piece of music, or watch a pornographic film, read an erotic story, and let your sexual fantasies run wild. Light some incense or a scented candle. Adjust the room's lighting; warm yellow light is recommended.
Remember to set your phone to "Do Not Disturb" mode to avoid any "inconvenient" interruptions.
Slow Sex, Don't Rush
Teacher Xinyu often mentions the concept of "slow sex," emphasizing the importance of mutual caressing between partners. Caressing can be seen as an integral part of sex, even a crucial one. In practice, take more time to relax your body and warm up your sensitive areas.
Before self-pleasuring, wash your hands thoroughly and keep them warm. Then lie on the bed and gently touch your skin with your fingertips, almost touching but not quite. Be gentle and slow; moving your fingers only 2-3 centimeters per second is fine.
If you have a bathtub at home, you can even add some rose petals to the water and treat yourself to a top-notch SPA-like experience, caressing yourself with care.
The clitoris is the most important sensitive spot for achieving orgasm. So, focus your attention on the clitoral tissue and explore every millimeter of skin carefully.
When you start to feel aroused, use the toy to stimulate it from a distance, gradually getting closer. This way, even the lowest setting can easily bring you to orgasm.
If you skip foreplay and jump straight to using the highest setting on your private area, not only will it be extremely uncomfortable, but it will also drastically increase your threshold, leading to only "quick orgasms."
Vary Your Stimulation Methods
If you always stimulate the same area in the same way, that area will gradually become "numb." But if you know how to vary your stimulation methods and points, you won't become numb. Instead, all your sensitive areas will remain highly responsive.
For example, when choosing toys, you can enjoy the gentle caress of a vibrator one time and the intense attack of a sucking toy the next.
In terms of massage techniques, alternate between gentle, wet, and intense sensations.
For sensitive points, stimulate point C one time, point G the next, and then points A and B the following time, taking turns to "favor" each one.
Seek Medical Help if There's Discomfort
If the numbness in your vaginal area persists for a while and is accompanied by hip pain, lower body weakness, thigh numbness, or difficulty urinating, you should seek medical attention immediately to check for other underlying health issues.
In conclusion, under normal circumstances, there shouldn't be any problems. So, go ahead and enjoy yourself. Your pleasure is the most important thing.
